Which is another point to consider. You are 70 what? I know May is in her mid to late 80's and you are in your I think late 70's. This is maybe why you have made some of the recent choices you have in regards to system changing.
I don't know if either of you are wearing hearing aids, but this could very well be why you are describing the sound the way you do sometimes. The older one gets the more sensitive they are with either loosing part of the range or having other problems with the highs. I have seen a lot of folks for example judge digital that are over 45, and describe it as a harsh sound and others who have better high frequency response hear digital as smooth and liquid. I remember tuning for some of the TAS guys and them mentioning this to me, and having me tune the system a certain way so it was easier on their hearing.
A lot of guys like vinyl because they can adjust for a warmer sound, but you will also notice if it's a young pup with fresh ears they will set the table up differently than many who are in their 50-80 range. For myself, I couldn't imagine having a system with one sound. Would drive me right up the wall, and was one of the things that bugged me about the portables. I'm so use to every recording having it's own merits that when I hear something out of tune I have an alarm go off in my head "how out of tune" and "do I want to mess with it".
Yes there are many deal killers with all of this, and I guess is why I am sometimes surprised to see you sick to your guns so tightly and not shoot for making things that are more variable. But that will change in time I bet. Unless you give up the hobby altogether.
Your not getting any younger there Pops.
michael green
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